He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not

So, after much thought…  okay, not much thought at all really, but some discussion…  I’ve decided that some of my dear girlfriends need to be reminded of some things.  

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How about some excerpts from a little book called, “He’s Just Not That Into You: Your Daily Wake-Up Call” (2005)…  Do I agree with everything this book is about?  Absolutely not.  However, I DO agree with the idea that you were made for MORE than wishing someone else would notice your worth.

14: Don’t waste the pretty

40: “Hey, let’s meet at so-and-so’s party/friend’s house” is not a date.  Even if you live in New York.

45: if I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horrible busy day.  Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.

56: Meeting someone you like and dating him is supposed to make you feel  BETTER, not WORSE.  That’s always a good rule to live by, no matter what the special circumstances (i.e., excuses) are.

65: He’s just not that into you if he’s not dating you. “Hanging out” is NOT dating.

101: Your lost self-esteem may take longer to find than a new boyfriend, so prioritize accordingly.

152: Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about ANYTHING related to his feelings for you.

164: Don’t be flattered that he misses you.  He SHOULD miss you.  You’re deeply missable.  However, he’s still the same person who just broke up with you.  Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he’s choosing, every day, not to be with you.

191: Don’t ask yourself what you did wrong or how you could have done it differently. Don’t waste your valuable heart and mind trying to figure out why he did what he did. Or thinking back on all thethings he said, and wondering what was the truth and what was the lie.  The only thing you need to know is that it’s really good news: He’s gone.  Hallelujah.

195: He might be lying in the hospital with amnesia, but more likely he’s just not that into you.

231: We are all tired of operating from a place of fear.  You want to believe you are better than all the crap you’ve been taking from all these men all these years.  Well, you are.

239: Freaks should remain at the circus, not in your apartment.

247: When you think about it, making all those excuses for someone and trying to “figure someone out” takes up a lot of energy. Think of all the time you’ve opened up for so many other more positive things besides obsessing over HIM.

251: A standard is setting a level for yourself of what you will or won’t tolerate. You get to decide how it’s going to be for you.  You can now design the person you want to be in the future, and the standards you want to have. Make sure you know what you stand for and what you believe in.

258: I WILL NOT, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, SPEND MY PRECIOUS TIME WITH A MAN WHO HAS ALREADY REJECTED ME.

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Okay, so now let’s talk about a guy who will never reject you.  He’ll never keep you waiting by the phone.  He won’t lie.  He’s always wanting your attention and misses you when you don’t make time for him.  He’s not clingy, and he’s not forceful.  He’ll never yell at you, and he will NEVER leave you.  He loves you more than anyone could ever fathom.

Guess who this guy is…  Yep, you’ve got it.

Here’s what the bible says about us…

Psalm 139:14- “I will praise you because I am wonderfully and fearfully made.”

Psalm 45:11- “The King is enthralled by your beauty.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-…13- “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. … And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

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Here’s the deal.  He loves us with a love that we could never experience here on Earth.  So, why in the world do we keep seeking it here?  Why do we secretly look to men for our validation?  Sorry, guys, but He’s the only one that can satisfy that longing- that hole that we all feel inside.  

So, here’s what I have to say.  It’s easier said than done, but…  Put down the phone.  If that guy wants you, he’ll call you.  Just know that you have me and the rest of your girlfriends to show you a glimpse of the love and acceptance you’ll find in Him every single day.

I’m here, and I’m ready to love on you like Jesus loves on you.  So, instead of calling that guy…  Call me.  I’ll remind you of what our awesome God thinks of you.  And how you don’t need anybody’s else’s words but His.

In His Love,

Lex <3